Facing fear to become an unstoppable force

#UnstoppableForces look fear in the eyesI won’t lie to you. The first four months of 2017 have been among the worst of my life. The why isn’t important, but there have been lots of triggers, lots of tears, and lots of chances to just curl into a ball and give up.

I’m still here, though. Still fighting. Still working at being an unstoppable force like the women (and men) I write about. I’ve learned a lot this year.

Fear can keep us from doing what we know is right. Fear isolates us. It tells us that we can’t change things, that we can’t say the one thing we know we need to say, do the one thing we know we need to do, that we can’t risk everything because what if we’re left with nothing?

Fear lies.

Everyone fears from time to time. Some fear can be healthy. I’m afraid of walking through Central Park alone at midnight (thanks, SVU, for that one). I’m afraid of jumping out of an airplane. I’m afraid of being trapped in tight spaces. I’m afraid of roller coasters.

All too often, though, fear grabs a hold of us and won’t let go. It paralyzes us, leaves us convinced that we’re nothing, or that we can’t survive if we do X or if we don’t do Y. In my case, fear kept me in a situation that was incredibly unhealthy.

I stopped writing. I stopped working out. I stopped reading. I stopped connecting with people. I stopped cooking. All things I used to love. All things that made me who I am.

While I wouldn’t wish my past few months on anyone, once I told Fear to take a backseat, I realized how much of myself I’d lost and I started the process of healing. I still have a lot left to do; Fear still whispers to me late at night or when I’m down.

I’ve learned, though, that when we look Fear in the eyes and yell “Geronimo,” we become an unstoppable force. So, allons-y. This unstoppable force is off to figure out a way to get Ealasaid out of the mess she’s in.

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1 Comment

  • Gina Scott Roberts Posted April 22, 2017 2:41 pm

    I have no doubt, you’ll kick Fear’s @$$. Your characters came from you, are all a part of you, so I–and anyone else who’s read your books and/or interacted with you–know their strength is also a part of you.

    When you’re ready, your audience will be waiting. In the meantime, I’m sure we all want you to take care of yourself!

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